If you want him to marry you before you have children and he won’t do it, bin him. If you don’t want to have children and she won’t take contraception seriously, bin her. An affair may be entered into lightly; parenthood should not. Whatever the tabloid arithmetic of relationships claims, there are some things more important than the Hollywood ideal of “love”. Among these things are children. They last longer. They are more precious. Life conquers all. Love doesn’t.
10May05 — 6
The human race is doomed!!!!
Ah, a conservative.
Amen, PG, Amen…
We had our child before we were married, but I had already proposed to my wife before she conceived. It was nice to have our one-year-old attend the wedding and blow raspberries during the vows, but it probably would have been even better to do it before she was born…
My wife tells me that once we were married, she felt a lot more at ease with the relationship, although I had never given her any reason to think that I would leave before that. It’s just something psychological about declaring and taking on a legal obligation which is nominally lifelong.
Also, from observing people who just “live together”, and strictly anecdotal based upon my own observations: Married people tend to be more willing to compromise and overlook those little niggling things that drive cohabiting couples apart. And kids need both parents. Preferably together.
Can I add: If you don’t mean “forsaking all others, for better, for worse,” don’t take the vow. Whatever happened to keeping promises?
It became inconvenient.
So even more idealistic than the notion of Hollywood ‘love’ is the idea that you can just dump someone after many years of shared emotions. What happens when a five year old relationship breaks down and you are still left holding the baby. Should you just dump that too?
Unless I’ve stumbled onto a christian website, can I just say that life doesn’t always pan out how we’d all like it to, despite all the prayers or will or love [however misguided].