If you want him to marry you before you have children and he won’t do it, bin him. If you don’t want to have children and she won’t take contraception seriously, bin her. An affair may be entered into lightly; parenthood should not. Whatever the tabloid arithmetic of relationships claims, there are some things more important than the Hollywood ideal of “love”. Among these things are children. They last longer. They are more precious. Life conquers all. Love doesn’t.